Hi guys,
I hope you had a really nice weekend and happy new month to you all, I would like you to ask your selves few questions before you read any further. First of all, What is Dating to you? Do you see it as a necessary step one must take in order to find a life partner? Or do you see it as an excuse to indulge in promiscuous activities? Either way the choice is yours, I am not here to judge, neither am I here to encourage anyone, personally I have lost interest in it, not for what it was, but for what it has become. I used to be a big fan of relationships, dating, courting in the earlier stages of my life, growing up with the kind of parents I did made fairy tales look much closer to reality than ever, but as I grew up I realized such fairy tales were not for me.
Have you ever wondered of how relationships were back in the 19th century and early 20th century? Where men got women through charm and chivalry, and getting a woman in your bed could only happen if she was your wife. Sounds boring doesn’t it? And even if she was a prostitute getting her still would still require manners, at that time the only set of women that got maltreated where the slaves, but they still got their own share of respect from their slave husbands, don’t get me wrong they had their own share of drama, scandals, and gold diggers. it was the simpler times when picking up the telephone and asking someone on a date required courage, strategic planning, and a considerable investment of a well-dressed single gentleman pulling up to the front of a single lady’s home in the early evening, steps out of his car, and approaches her front door. Probably the two of them were introduced earlier by a mutual friend at a social function or met in some nice place. As she steps outside, he offers an umbrella to shield her from rain showers if they are any, he walks with her to the passenger side of the car, and opens the door for her. She notices the interior of the car is spotless. The pair take a scenic route to a special destination, a reserved table at an elegant restaurant. Conversation flows naturally for a couple hours, with each learning about the background and interests of the other. After dessert, the gentleman pays for the meal and then drives the lady home. Accompanying her to her door, he thanks her with a warm smile and departs; hopefully to see her again. This may be repeated on a regular basis, and could eventually lead to courtship and marriage as the two get to know one another through hours of conversation, spread over months.
To older readers, the scenario above may have at least a vague or distant familiarity. But to younger readers, it may be utterly foreign, antiquated and unrealistic like viewing a scene from an old black-and-white film in a world accustomed to the rapid-fire images of a high-definition action movie.
Nowadays relationships have been about what each party tends to gain individually, rather than what they can gain together, we tend to treat ourselves with disregard, a better illustration would be to say we treat each other like shoes, even if one fits perfectly we would still want to try something new. With no one trying to connect with the other person, just meaningless sex and relationships.
To be continued….
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